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    Someone in a thread over at the Pathfinder RPG pafe said said “These personal issues really distracts from the game. Does anyone remember the days when none of this stuff was a friggin issue and all we had was fun????”

    Such a time never existed, and if you think it does it’s because either as a guy you never had to deal with it, or for some reason your experiences were sheltered.

    You know what days *I* remember?

    I remember being told no matter how well I rolled, my female D&D fighter could not, as a matter of the *rules* be as strong as a man. Another player could decide his 13-year-old boy PC had a 18/00 Strength because he was magically blessed, but as a female character I *couldn’t*.

    I remember bringing in a new character and being told they’d pick me up at the next village, and my background would be randomly rolled for. And do you know what was rolled? Harlot. And then I had to see what KIND of harlot. But, I was assured, this was totally fair. Because I might end up being a pimp, which would mean I was a male character.

    But no, I was a wanton wench.

    I remember not being ABLE to find a figure for a female warrior who didn’t have her tits, ass, thighs, or all of the above exposed. I remember being shown an editorial in Dragon Magazine where Kim Mohan *admitted* that sexualization in female miniatures was a problem, but claimed the Strength cap wasn’t “something any reasonable person could argue with” … AND didn’t offer any suggestions on how to deal with either issue.

    I remember being told that since my magic-user’s level title for the next level was “sorcerer,” and not “sorceress,” and there was NO evidence in the rules of female sorcerers, I could NOT gain that level.

    These were the people who TAUGHT me to role-play. And yeah that last argument is stupid, but I had NO WAY of knowing that. I mean there were racial caps for classes, and a Strength cap for gender, so why wouldn’t I accept a gender cap for classes?

    Those days sucked. Roleplaying was so great a thrill I wanted to do it anyway. It wasn’t until one of the toads I played with physically assaulted me I left that group, because I was young and impressionable and they had LOTS of evidence that was just How the Game Was Played.

    Never, EVER think that HOW a company describes things, presents itself, covers issue of gender and sexual orientation in the rules, and comports itself with customers doesn’t have a MAJOR impact on the culture of people playing the game.

    TSR, and then WotC, had a LONG history of showing that women are second-class PCs at best, and mostly exist as sex objects to cling to the thighs of Conan-like heroes. Played by Boys. Gary Gygaz once said that women’s Brains are “Wired Differently,” and that’s why they just aren’t interested in rpgs. Of course that attitude impacted how woman were portrayed, and thus how a lot of players and DMs played.

    It’s NOT that “All Cheesecake is Bad.” I’m not claiming you can’t have sexy character and nods to pulp – you just have to have them for both genders, and you have to have more than that. You have to show a RANGE of characters, male and female, spellcaster and warrior, preferable in every product but absolutely in the core rules.

    Paizo and Pathfinder do a MUCH better job of that than anything WotC did before 5e (and 5e is too new to fairly judge either way). And so yeah, it is NO surprise to me when I can have fun with every Pathfinder group I ever meet, and get inappropriately harassed by about a third of the MTG and D&D groups I encounter.

    So yeah, this stuff matters. It has ALWAYS mattered. And we NEED it in order to allow EVERYONE to “all have fun.”

    "
    — Dungeon Dames (via adventuresinozrpg)

    (Source: werlicnessebaeddon, via arse-moriendi)

     
  2. arse-moriendi:

    morven:

    arse-moriendi:

    morven:

    arse-moriendi:

    maskedbrute:

    I think the term Trigger Warning (molestation in this case) is merited here. Just a big stack of awful facts are to follow.

    Whatever else Marion Zimmer Bradley was to the rest of the world, apparently she was determined to be an absolute horrible human being in her private life.

    First, when Walter Breen (the man who would become her husband) was controversially banned from a con because of his history of “seducing” young boys she was one of the many who leapt to his defense. Later she would stand by her position of denying the accusations or that it was no one else’s business, claiming that even though she knew of his behavior the victims (in at least one case) “did not impress [her] as a minor child.” The victim in that case was 10 and 11 at the times in question.

    Second, according to the testimony and timeline of events archived on Stephen Goldin’s website, by her own admission she lived for years with a known pedophile while also allowing him to share beds with young boys. It was her claim that, because he was impotent (supposedly from the time her daughter was two), “nothing that could bother anyone could happen.” She even tried to adopt the boy that quote is in regards to, not telling anyone about her husband’s pedophilia or spending time in bed with the boy.

    Third, and most important is the fact that her own duaghter, who through the years was instrumental in bringing Walter Breen to justice and was also raped by him, has recently publicly stated that Marion Zimmer Bradley herself sexually abused Moira and her siblings. Even in the rather stone-wall deposition from Marion’s secretary/lover, where she claims to have been blind to just about everything, the current head of MZB’s estate admits that she was aware of claims that Marion had inappropriately touched her daughter (to which Marion replied, “Children that age didn’t have erogenous zones”) and the feeling she got from Marion’s son that he may have been molested by her.

    In the words of Marion’s daughter, “Walter was a serial rapist with many, many, many victims (I named 22 to the cops) but Marion was far, far worse. She was cruel and violent, as well as completely out of her mind sexually. I am not her only victim, nor were her only victims girls.”

    As someone who’d read her works and never heard any of this until the most recent revelations from her daughter… I felt it was important, if not pleasant, to share.

    fuck Marion Zimmer Bradley

    Makes me feel like getting rid of those of her works I have.  

    (I was molested as a child, so this kind of thing really bothers me.)

    Man, I feel ya. I wish I could go back in time and burn Piers Anthony’s books instead of just tossing them(I decided against reselling them because that’s how I ran into his work in the first place, in a secondhand bookstore.) I’m actually kind of glad I never got into Dawkins and Card for the same reason. As much as I hate to hurt a book, I can’t always get my hands around the real thing. 

    In marital relationships like this, I always wonder why the partner stays with them and excuses their actions so long, how they can turn such a massively blind eye to their deeds. Here I no longer have to wonder, because she’s a fucking pedophile too. Fuck.

    I haven’t heard of Piers Anthony doing anything morally questionable to anyone, though — is there anything?

    The skeeviness of the writing is what purged his books from my life.

    Aside from his pro-pedophilia filibuster at the end of Firefly? Nothing concrete. But it’s enough that I want to scrub the memory of reading his shit from my mind with steel wool.

    I hadn’t heard of those. Even more disturbing.

    Definitely gives the impression that IF he’s not a child molester, it’s only because he’s scared of the consequences, not because he finds anything morally wrong with it.

     
  3. arse-moriendi:

    morven:

    arse-moriendi:

    maskedbrute:

    I think the term Trigger Warning (molestation in this case) is merited here. Just a big stack of awful facts are to follow.

    Whatever else Marion Zimmer Bradley was to the rest of the world, apparently she was determined to be an absolute horrible human being in her private life.

    First, when Walter Breen (the man who would become her husband) was controversially banned from a con because of his history of “seducing” young boys she was one of the many who leapt to his defense. Later she would stand by her position of denying the accusations or that it was no one else’s business, claiming that even though she knew of his behavior the victims (in at least one case) “did not impress [her] as a minor child.” The victim in that case was 10 and 11 at the times in question.

    Second, according to the testimony and timeline of events archived on Stephen Goldin’s website, by her own admission she lived for years with a known pedophile while also allowing him to share beds with young boys. It was her claim that, because he was impotent (supposedly from the time her daughter was two), “nothing that could bother anyone could happen.” She even tried to adopt the boy that quote is in regards to, not telling anyone about her husband’s pedophilia or spending time in bed with the boy.

    Third, and most important is the fact that her own duaghter, who through the years was instrumental in bringing Walter Breen to justice and was also raped by him, has recently publicly stated that Marion Zimmer Bradley herself sexually abused Moira and her siblings. Even in the rather stone-wall deposition from Marion’s secretary/lover, where she claims to have been blind to just about everything, the current head of MZB’s estate admits that she was aware of claims that Marion had inappropriately touched her daughter (to which Marion replied, “Children that age didn’t have erogenous zones”) and the feeling she got from Marion’s son that he may have been molested by her.

    In the words of Marion’s daughter, “Walter was a serial rapist with many, many, many victims (I named 22 to the cops) but Marion was far, far worse. She was cruel and violent, as well as completely out of her mind sexually. I am not her only victim, nor were her only victims girls.”

    As someone who’d read her works and never heard any of this until the most recent revelations from her daughter… I felt it was important, if not pleasant, to share.

    fuck Marion Zimmer Bradley

    Makes me feel like getting rid of those of her works I have.  

    (I was molested as a child, so this kind of thing really bothers me.)

    Man, I feel ya. I wish I could go back in time and burn Piers Anthony’s books instead of just tossing them(I decided against reselling them because that’s how I ran into his work in the first place, in a secondhand bookstore.) I’m actually kind of glad I never got into Dawkins and Card for the same reason. As much as I hate to hurt a book, I can’t always get my hands around the real thing. 

    In marital relationships like this, I always wonder why the partner stays with them and excuses their actions so long, how they can turn such a massively blind eye to their deeds. Here I no longer have to wonder, because she’s a fucking pedophile too. Fuck.

    I haven’t heard of Piers Anthony doing anything morally questionable to anyone, though — is there anything?

    The skeeviness of the writing is what purged his books from my life.

     

  4. Anonymous said: OK so since in your own words TV Tropes just lists tropes that seem to happen enough to be noticeable isn't it the media products writers fault the trope exists since they wrote it into their product and not TV Tropes for as I understand it pretty much saying "this is a thing"?

    gethn7:

    fucknotvtropes:

    Yes and no. It’s bad on the part of the writers that they use offensive tropes in their media, but TVTropes reacts to these tropes in less-than stellar ways. For example, the White Guy and Asian Gal trope (formerly called “Me Love You Long Time”) lists examples of Asian fetishization by white men, but it also lists every example of interracial relationships they can think of. A wholesome relationship between a white man and an Asian woman is viewed on the same level as a white man who lusts after Asian women’s bodies. Another example is the Straight Gay trope, which many people in the media view as a “better” way of being gay, and Camp Gays are viewed as icky and unmanly. TVTropes views Straight Gay in a similar light when they say “This gay character isn’t a stereotype, which means he’s a good role model for kids” or something along those lines.

    I dunno about anyone else, but I see the Straight Gay and Camp Gay tropes as:

    Straight Gay- You’d assume they were straight unless they told they were gay.

    Camp Gay- They act like or come off as a gay stereotype, usually for comedy purposes.

    Also, while it is a bit insensitive to use the Asian Guy and White Gal trope in the manner you describe, in partial defense of tropers, the name is rather literal, and tropers tend to be literalists, so they list every example of the trope that fits the name, not bothering to draw a line between the difference you indicated, and yeah, that’s in bad taste.

    All too often that’s the case.

    The point of the original trope “Me Love You Long Time” was about the racist stereotype, one commonly depicted in media; it used an offensive name because the trope was an offensive one, so as not to sugarcoat it.

    Someone got the name blanded because they were offended by the name, but unfortunately that made the literal minded turn it into “any white man/Asian woman relationship” which ain’t useful.

     

  5. gaydicks420:

    john greens whole “date nerd boys” thing isnt just annoying its incredibly fucked up and unsafe the presentation of “nerd boys” as kind, intelligent boys who would never hurt you is something that abusers have latched onto and presented themselves as and i really fucking wish that someone had told me that before i had to figure it out for myself.

    This. Abusers can look like anything; moreover, abusers are good at hiding. Taking on a “harmless” look is often done deliberately.

    (via fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton)

     
  6. arse-moriendi:

    maskedbrute:

    I think the term Trigger Warning (molestation in this case) is merited here. Just a big stack of awful facts are to follow.

    Whatever else Marion Zimmer Bradley was to the rest of the world, apparently she was determined to be an absolute horrible human being in her private life.

    First, when Walter Breen (the man who would become her husband) was controversially banned from a con because of his history of “seducing” young boys she was one of the many who leapt to his defense. Later she would stand by her position of denying the accusations or that it was no one else’s business, claiming that even though she knew of his behavior the victims (in at least one case) “did not impress [her] as a minor child.” The victim in that case was 10 and 11 at the times in question.

    Second, according to the testimony and timeline of events archived on Stephen Goldin’s website, by her own admission she lived for years with a known pedophile while also allowing him to share beds with young boys. It was her claim that, because he was impotent (supposedly from the time her daughter was two), “nothing that could bother anyone could happen.” She even tried to adopt the boy that quote is in regards to, not telling anyone about her husband’s pedophilia or spending time in bed with the boy.

    Third, and most important is the fact that her own duaghter, who through the years was instrumental in bringing Walter Breen to justice and was also raped by him, has recently publicly stated that Marion Zimmer Bradley herself sexually abused Moira and her siblings. Even in the rather stone-wall deposition from Marion’s secretary/lover, where she claims to have been blind to just about everything, the current head of MZB’s estate admits that she was aware of claims that Marion had inappropriately touched her daughter (to which Marion replied, “Children that age didn’t have erogenous zones”) and the feeling she got from Marion’s son that he may have been molested by her.

    In the words of Marion’s daughter, “Walter was a serial rapist with many, many, many victims (I named 22 to the cops) but Marion was far, far worse. She was cruel and violent, as well as completely out of her mind sexually. I am not her only victim, nor were her only victims girls.”

    As someone who’d read her works and never heard any of this until the most recent revelations from her daughter… I felt it was important, if not pleasant, to share.

    fuck Marion Zimmer Bradley

    Makes me feel like getting rid of those of her works I have.  

    (I was molested as a child, so this kind of thing really bothers me.)

     

  7. writing tip #896:

    gr8writingtips:

    when your internet goes down, make sure you get as much writing done as you physically can. the opportunity may not come again for a while. bask in the glow of being distraction free

    Alas so true …

     
  8. numb3r5ev3n:

    ceruleancynic:

    amarilloo:

    dtk-womenwarriors:

    ART BY WESLEY  BURT

    Part I

    NOW THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT

    oh would you fucking look at that

    WOMEN IN BATTLE GEAR/ARMOR THAT IS NOT DRIPPING WITH FROTHY-SLICK CURDS OF SEXISM

    goddes and men saide it was notte to bee

    but they would notte listen

    Can I be #2 when I grow up?

    These are great!

    (via starcunning)

     
  9. jean-luc-gohard:

    I love that he looks more inconvenienced than truly angry.

    He’s a politician; he’s done nastier things for votes or money, you can be sure!

    (Source: twitter.com, via adventuresofcesium)

     
  10. So true!

    (Source: best-of-imgur, via congenitalprogramming)